前阵子刷抖音看到个视频,讲的是:我们这代人受的不是爱的教育,而是买卖教育、条件教育、交换教育——引起了许多人的强烈共鸣。点开评论区,几条高赞显得尤为扎心。
很明显,在大家的感受里,父母对我们的爱,更像是一种投资,我们觉得自己被视为一种资源或资产,价值在于能按照父母的意愿成长发展,并在未来给他们带去某种特定性质的回报。
如果“投资”失败,我们就无法得到他们的认可和肯定,甚至可能会被惩罚和抛弃。而就算“投资”成功,我们也感觉不到真正被爱,更不会在其中体会到幸福。
也正因如此,越来越多人开始反思:投资型父母对孩子真的是爱吗?投资型教育背后的心理动机是什么?以及,真正健康的爱的教育又应当是怎样的。
一起来看今天的文章吧……展开全文
“父母无恩,老贼有罪”。父母不对子女享有天然的不可更改的“养育之恩”。历史已经做出了决定,非自卫的故意杀人都是犯罪,无论以何种方式。生而不养就等于杀了这个婴儿,是犯罪。生育者没有选择不养的权利,养育是责任,而非恩情。但至今那些自称最爱他们的子女的那些父母,却拿着已经不存在的养育之恩道德绑架他们的子女,打压他们子女的自由意志,妄图随意捏造子女的人生。这种亲人无亲近可言,他们是老而不死的贼,是毒亲。
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Refering to https://allthetropes.org/wiki/My_Beloved_Smother , the parents couldn’t enjoy natural and unchangeable “kindness-to-repay of fostering” toward their children as traditional Chinese morality suggests. The history has judged that non-self-defensive murder is a crime, no matter how, so giving birth to a child without fostering them is not different than killing them, which is a crime. Those who have children do not have the right not to foster them. Fostering is an obligation, not a kindness-to-repay. However, many parents self-praised to love their children with all their heart are hijacking morality with the nonexistent “kindness-to-repay of fostering” to condemn their children, beating down their children’s free will, vainly attempting to fabricate their children’s life. Such parents are not parental. They are moribund harmful old scoundrels. They are “beloved smothers”.
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