某天,我坐同事的顺风车下班回家,轻柔的车载音乐里,我俩聊天,她说起了上中学时让她耿耿于怀的一件事。她从小就是一个对父母言听计从的乖孩子,穿衣打扮都是由母亲做主包办。有一次,母亲按照自己的审美,从集市上给她买了一件紫色的上衣。那种紫色很不寻常,不是一般人能驾驭的。同事认为自己皮肤比较黑,紫色会衬得肤色更加暗沉。但母亲极力说服她穿,说都买来了,不好退换。再说,紫色多高贵多梦幻。为了让母亲开心,她还是把那件紫色上衣穿了一整年,虽然每次穿都很不开心,很不自在不自信。
长大后,她读张爱玲的作品,看到发誓“八岁要梳爱司头,十岁要穿高跟鞋”的她长期处在继母的统治下,穿着她的旧衣,是碎牛肉的黯红,穿不完地穿着,是冬天长了冻疮的憎恶与羞耻。她被戳中了。看她眼睛里有泪光闪烁,我给了她一个感同身受的拥抱,原来我们都是这样长大的乖孩子啊……展开全文
“父母无恩,老贼有罪”。父母不对子女享有天然的不可更改的“养育之恩”。历史已经做出了决定,非自卫的故意杀人都是犯罪,无论以何种方式。生而不养就等于杀了这个婴儿,是犯罪。生育者没有选择不养的权利,养育是责任,而非恩情。但至今那些自称最爱他们的子女的那些父母,却拿着已经不存在的养育之恩道德绑架他们的子女,打压他们子女的自由意志,妄图随意捏造子女的人生。这种亲人无亲近可言,他们是老而不死的贼,是毒亲。
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Refering to https://allthetropes.org/wiki/My_Beloved_Smother , the parents couldn’t enjoy natural and unchangeable “kindness-to-repay of fostering” toward their children as traditional Chinese morality suggests. The history has judged that non-self-defensive murder is a crime, no matter how, so giving birth to a child without fostering them is not different than killing them, which is a crime. Those who have children do not have the right not to foster them. Fostering is an obligation, not a kindness-to-repay. However, many parents self-praised to love their children with all their heart are hijacking morality with the nonexistent “kindness-to-repay of fostering” to condemn their children, beating down their children’s free will, vainly attempting to fabricate their children’s life. Such parents are not parental. They are moribund harmful old scoundrels. They are “beloved smothers”.
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