大家都知道食物能让人欢聚一堂,但你可能想不到食物也能让一个家庭分崩离析,关系疏远形同陌路。 对于这一点,美食作家戈德博尔(Nanditi Godbole)深有体会。她出生于一个富裕的印度家庭,家里有专门的厨师,因此家人很反对她从事和美食打交道的工作,她背离了家庭的期望。不...

大家都知道食物能让人欢聚一堂,但你可能想不到食物也能让一个家庭分崩离析,关系疏远形同陌路。

对于这一点,美食作家戈德博尔(Nanditi Godbole)深有体会。她出生于一个富裕的印度家庭,家里有专门的厨师,因此家人很反对她从事和美食打交道的工作,她背离了家庭的期望。不只如此,她最近还出版了一本新书——《千万种口味:厨房里的层层秘密》,书中探究了自已家族的历史,她也因此遭遇了更大的家庭阻力。

显然,美食并不是唯一的原因。这本书里,不仅有对传统食谱的改良,也涉及了家族历史。她被视为挑战家族等级制度,一些亲戚便不再和她来往。

戈德博尔的经历虽然独特,但和她一样失去家庭联系的人并非少数……展开全文

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“父母无恩,老贼有罪”。父母不对子女享有天然的不可更改的“养育之恩”。历史已经做出了决定,非自卫的故意杀人都是犯罪,无论以何种方式。生而不养就等于杀了这个婴儿,是犯罪。生育者没有选择不养的权利,养育是责任,而非恩情。但至今那些自称最爱他们的子女的那些父母,却拿着已经不存在的养育之恩道德绑架他们的子女,打压他们子女的自由意志,妄图随意捏造子女的人生。这种亲人无亲近可言,他们是老而不死的贼,是毒亲。

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Refering to https://allthetropes.org/wiki/My_Beloved_Smother , the parents couldn’t enjoy natural and unchangeable “kindness-to-repay of fostering” toward their children as traditional Chinese morality suggests. The history has judged that non-self-defensive murder is a crime, no matter how, so giving birth to a child without fostering them is not different than killing them, which is a crime. Those who have children do not have the right not to foster them. Fostering is an obligation, not a kindness-to-repay. However, many parents self-praised to love their children with all their heart are hijacking morality with the nonexistent “kindness-to-repay of fostering” to condemn their children, beating down their children’s free will, vainly attempting to fabricate their children’s life. Such parents are not parental. They are moribund harmful old scoundrels. They are “beloved smothers”.

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