随着我们逐渐走出校园，步入社会，我们首先面对的居然不是职场压力，而是父母的催婚？前脚我们还被禁止“早恋”，如今才迈出校园半步就被催婚？这属实令人大为不悦，更别提“侧卧之榻，岂容他人酣睡”，找一个自己根本就不信任，更不相爱的人结婚，真不怕对方背刺我们吗？所以我们中的大部分很理智地拒绝或者回避了父母的催婚，虽然我们很有可能仍然找不到自己的爱情，但比起陷入一段不能自主的婚姻而失去自我，至少此时我们还有充分的个人自由去选择接下来的路。
但是无论如何，父母的催婚首先都会影响我们的情绪，让我们变得焦虑。我们该如何处理这种焦虑情绪呢？
至少我个人认为，无论如何，我们不应该被这种焦虑吓倒，因为父母没有能力强制我们结婚生子，所以只能用些道德绑架和制造焦虑的下三滥手段来迫使我们就范。只要我们不放弃经济独立，他们就不能拿我们怎么样。真正让我们感到焦虑的因素还得从我们自己身上找……查看全文
原生家庭
!belovedsmother“父母无恩，老贼有罪”。父母不对子女享有天然的不可更改的“养育之恩”。历史已经做出了决定，非自卫的故意杀人都是犯罪，无论以何种方式。生而不养就等于杀了这个婴儿，是犯罪。生育者没有选择不养的权利，养育是责任，而非恩情。但至今那些自称最爱他们的子女的那些父母，却拿着已经不存在的养育之恩道德绑架他们的子女，打压他们子女的自由意志，妄图随意捏造子女的人生。这种亲人无亲近可言，他们是老而不死的贼，是毒亲。
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Refering to https://allthetropes.org/wiki/My_Beloved_Smother , the parents couldn’t enjoy natural and unchangeable “kindness-to-repay of fostering” toward their children as traditional Chinese morality suggests. The history has judged that non-self-defensive murder is a crime, no matter how, so giving birth to a child without fostering them is not different than killing them, which is a crime. Those who have children do not have the right not to foster them. Fostering is an obligation, not a kindness-to-repay. However, many parents self-praised to love their children with all their heart are hijacking morality with the nonexistent “kindness-to-repay of fostering” to condemn their children, beating down their children’s free will, vainly attempting to fabricate their children’s life. Such parents are not parental. They are moribund harmful old scoundrels. They are “beloved smothers”.
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